Finding your own luck

I was recently invited to speak at LEARN (ladies empowerment and referral network). After considering a lot of topics, I decided to share tips for finding your own luck – both in your personal and professional lives. Here’s the gist of what I presented:

Any of you that follow my Facebook or Instagram know that I have a special gift for finding 4-leaf clovers. Besides giving birth, I think it’s the only thing I do that my husband is really impressed by. He says, “it’s freaky”. Quick backstory on how I developed this talent. About 5-6 years ago, we were up at my father-in-laws place and had spent the day mowing and cleaning up brush. When we were done, we all laid in the shady grass chatting about this and that. Somehow we got on the subject of things we always wanted to do. I said that I’d always wanted to find a 4-leaf clover, and if I’d just find one I’d be satisfied. I literally looked down and there was one right next to my elbow. Ever since that day, I’ve been finding them everywhere – in our yard, at the park, when we go camping. When I tell people about this, they are always amazed and say something along the lines of, “Oh, I’ve never found one!” or “What’s your secret?”

one I found after 40 seconds of purposefully sitting down in the grass looking for one

one I found after 40 seconds of purposefully sitting down in the grass looking for one

Well, the truth is that there is no magic secret. Finding 4-leaf clovers is a lot like finding opportunities. You just have to know where to look and be open to recognizing a chance when you see one. That’s why I want to share with you my 4 tips for finding/creating your own luck!

#1: Believe that you can. Once I found that first 4-leaf clover, my attitude totally changed. Suddenly, I knew that it was possible to find them, then they started jumping out at me everywhere! Confidence is a key factor in any successful endeavor – whether it’s raising your children, starting your own business, or renewing the passion you had when you first started your business 10-20-30 years ago.

a 4 and a 5 leaf clover

a 4 and a 5 leaf clover

#2: Don’t pass judgment too quickly. A few months ago, I was outside right after my husband had mowed the yard. I was thinking to myself – there is no way I’d find one in the short grass. Without ever trying, I spotted what looked like a 4-leaf clover. Upon closer inspection, I realized that it was a poser – what I like to call a couple of regular clovers hanging out together posing as a 4-leaf clover. But right next to the poser was a true 4-leaf one that had all 4 leaves sliced off evenly by the mower blade. The point is if an opportunity presents itself but at first glance looks impossible, difficult or not the right fit, I encourage you to take a second look and consider all of the possibilities before you make a decision.

2 of 5 I found in one day shortly after my husband mowed the yard - the one on the right had all 4 leaves sliced off by the mower blades

2 of 5 I found in one day shortly after my husband mowed the yard – the one on the right had all 4 leaves sliced off by the mower blades

#3: Follow your instincts. Instincts are a funny thing or as my husband says, “just weird.” One afternoon I was walking out to our new barn not even looking down or scanning the grass. I had a sudden urge to stop and take a step back and right there was one! If you have a feeling that something is meant to be or even if you have bad feeling about something, listen to your gut. It’s usually spot on!

the 4 leaf clover I found shortly before I left for my Shark Tank casting call

the 4 leaf clover I found shortly before I left for my Shark Tank casting call

#4: I’ve found 4-leaf clovers everywhere – camping, the wine festival, Art in the Park, and even at a church of a wedding I was photographing! Like 4-leaf clovers, opportunities are everywhere. Sure you can go to networking events and other business events trying to promote yourself but some of my best customers and clients have came from non-typical business settings – at my son’s teeball game, at neighborhood parties, in a doctor’s waiting room. So always be on the lookout for the right opportunities and be ready to pick them out from all of the ordinary 3-leaf ones! As a side note to looking everywhere, I recommend that you don’t look so hard that you walk into tree branches while looking down at the grass, because I’ve never done that before…..

found at Art in the Park

found at Art in the Park

 

I want each of you to close your eyes and think back to an opportunity that presented itself to you….. Did you recognize it right away or did it take a little while for you to realize what was in front of you? Were you looking for that opportunity or did you just happen upon it? You can open your eyes now.. Ok, I want you to share with the women at your table what your opportunity was and what were the circumstances that lead up to it? How did you react?

I’ll give you my example: About a month ago, I was browsing facebook and I follow several of the Sharks from Shark Tank – Barbara Corcoran, Mark Cuban, Daymond John.. Anyways, I clicked on a link on Babara’s page – something about women entrepreneurs.. Then before I knew it I was clicking from one link to another to another – all about business tips, etc. And then I saw something that mentioned a the words “open casting call” and I thought to myself, I didn’t know Shark Tank did open casting calls – I wonder where they are. So a quick google search turned up that they would be having one in Des Moines just 13 days from that day! I figured what are the odds that I would discover this so close to then? I called my mother-in-law who always provides sensible and practical advice, and asked her what she thought about going. I mean, I had to be realistic with myself – my chances of making it onto the show were very small, but I also figure what do I have to lose? So I did it! Did I make it on the show? Not yet. But did I recognize the opportunity and do something about it? Of course!

bride with one I found outside the church

bride with one I found outside the church